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Do You Need a Relationship Checkup?
Most couples go through pretty much the same process of getting together. They encounter someone who appears to be a match for what they are looking for – in intelligence, looks, money, or whatever. They get acquainted, hit the bedroom, get rings and go buy furniture. While oversimplified, it is fairly close to the process that most duets go through. Then, as is often the case, the hot-as-a-pepper relationship fizzles and degrades into the classic American duet – filled with boring evenings, forced Valentines Days and gradually expanding voids between partners.
Those duets that are better managed persevere and survive; those that are not, do not. A thorough understanding of these principles might, indeed, help to get ex back. If you are trying to recover a broken relationship, your chance to win your ex back, will be heightened by knowing all these things.
Is there a way to engineer a lasting relationship maintenance process? We believe that there is. We call it the Relationship Checkup. It is nothing more than a forced – or agreed – regular process of assessing how things really stand inside the relationship. Due to its preplanned nature it results in a reduced likelihood of being forgotten or politely unhandled. If you are attempting to get ex back from a breakup caused by the absence of these things, take heed.
All relationships produce stress and it is this stress that will not only be memorable when it comes time to define your stance on the relationship but it will be both healthy and needed. We feel that the correct way to do this is on your anniversary, followed by dinner and wild sex (just kidding?). Okay, what to put on the report card? We recommend that the Annual Relationship Report Card should reflect scoring in Six categories:
1. Love and Friendship. While viewed by some as corny today, love is still tie which binds. Nonetheless, it is much more often genuine friendship that couples celebrated decades later. This report card element is a yes or no in both instances. Do you feel love and friendship; are you loved and your partners friend?
2. Freedom and Independence. This is not as it might seem. What we are referring to here is the extent to which the Partner feels that they are able to pursue relationship-independent hobbies or pastimes that bring fun, and enjoyment into their life – without undue objection or stress.
3. Fulfillment and Support. This is nothing more than the feeling that we are being supported in our efforts to achieve our life goals through an appropriate level of dedicated involvement by our partner.
4. Excitement and Passion. This can be sex but it is appropriately much more than that. It is the energy that keeps a relationship alive.
5. Trust and Fidelity. This is the presence or absence of human integrity in the relationship. If we feel strongly that our situation or relationship is solid and rests on a high degree of human integrity we are free to be happy.
6. Contentment and Happiness. This is an overall summary statement of happiness with our life. If we feel content and happy – what else is there; if we do not, then we are just marking time.
The presumption is that the partners will rate the relationship from a high of 5 to a low of 1 in each of the six categories. The updated partners may then agree to negotiate on strategies for improvement. To find out more you can click here.
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